There seems to be an ever increasing tendency to point out the bad in one another. Although we often have very real grievances against another person, it can also seem as if many have taken on a “victim” energy and look to blame others as a way to address our grievances without providing a path to reconciliation. Blame not only most often puts the recipient in a defensive, unreconciling stance, but can keep our own minds closed to advances and solutions that could lift us all to a better place.

We are all human beings and we all make mistakes. Looking at other people more holistically and seeing their good as well as bad points, we can start a dialogue of reconciliation rather than a low energy blame game that leads to no results or reconciliation at all, just more anger.

Only in the spirit of love and respect can we look at the whole person and work with them to express and exchange views on actions, words and behaviors that offend us. In doing so, we not only allow others to understand our viewpoints, but gain knowledge of their perspectives and accordingly are more easily able to enter a dialogue that brings not only grievances to light, but the associated falsehoods that keep those grievances in place.

In that place of mutual understanding, we can work to come together on our commonalities and break down the walls that keep us all from moving forward to a better place. #love not #hate